Healing from Trauma

Aftermath of Abuse

You may be seeking therapy because it's time to deal with something difficult from your past. You may never have talked with anyone about what happened. It may have happened once, or you may have lived for years with abuse. You tried to put it out of your mind and move on, but you realize that what you experienced is still affecting you. 

You may have some or many of the following symptoms:

  • Fear or anxiety (being tense, fearful, agitated, or feeling on alert)
  • Sadness or depression from a sense of loss (crying spells, loss of interest in activities, wanting to be alone, feeling tired and numb, loss of trust)
  • Guilt and shame (think you should have prevented the trauma or acted differently during the trauma)
  • Anger and irritability (lash out at others, have less patience, overreact)
  • Behavior changes (drink too much, use drugs, take unnecessary risks, neglect your health, avoid certain people or situations, keep very busy, avoid seeking help)
  • Reliving the event (nightmares, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts)
Sheila Read, depression therapist

Relationship Trauma

If the above descriptions sound familiar, I'm glad you found me. I'm an expert in helping people heal from trauma experienced in relationships. Some of the forms relational trauma can take include:

  • Being a child of alcoholic or addicted parents
  • Rape, sexual assault, sexual coercion
  • Physical abuse (beatings, physical punishment, throwing objects, etc.)
  • Emotional abuse (constant or frequent criticism, contempt, undermining, gaslighting, mixed messages)
  • Bullying
  • Domestic violence by a spouse or partner

“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.”

-Bessel Van Der Kolk

How Trauma Affects Love

Trauma affects our ability to trust and to feel capable and worthy. People who are suffering from old trauma often struggle in love relationships. The fallout from the past often leads us to hurt others and ourselves. This often looks like the following:

  • Failing to protect ourselves from others’ abusive behavior
  • Having difficulty communicating our needs effectively (too aggressive or too passive)
  • Having intense emotions that often feel out of control
  • Experiencing difficulty with emotional and/or sexual intimacy

What You'll Learn

The good news is that through therapy you can heal and learn to trust again. I am trained in a variety of mind, body and spiritual practices proven helpful in recovery from trauma. These include:

  • Mindful movement and other gentle physical practices to help feel safe, empowered and calm
  • Dialectical behavior therapy to help manage intense emotions
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy to address negative thinking that magnifies anxiety
  • Interpersonal therapy to address trust and help learn healthy ways of relating
  • Spiritual focus (to the extent you wish) to address anger at God, loss of faith and to deepen spirituality

To help you feel safe talking about difficult experiences, I try my best to create a supportive and comfortable environment. I structure therapy to meet your pace, and I always tailor therapy to you as an individual. In trauma treatment, helping you feel safe, understood and empowered is the foundation of the work of healing. 

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Ready to Start a Conversation?

I'm so glad you found me!  I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation to explore if we would be a good fit working together.  Call me at (919) 619-8110, or fill out the form below.