About Sheila

Hi! I’m Sheila Read. I’m a therapist who helps people with relationships, anxiety, depression, trauma and addiction. I specialize in working with people who value a holistic approach to therapy.

The lens I bring to therapy is the tension between acceptance and change. Many things in our lives are out of our control, whether we like it or not. We suffer when we try to change things that cannot be changed, such as other people, places or situations. I help you identify what you can change and what is best to try to let go.

My approach

I have a collaborative approach and see you as the expert in your life. I believe that people are doing the best they can but are limited by old habits of thinking, feeling and acting. I offer nonjudgmental support and feedback. My job is to help you understand yourself better and encourage you to experiment with change.

People say I’m authentic, easy to talk with and insightful. I help you identify behaviors to change, deepen self-understanding and learn skills for emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness.

If desired, I help you align your life with your values and deepen your spirituality.I have an interfaith approach to spirituality and am respectful of all spiritual traditions. I also enjoy working with people who wish for spirituality but have difficulty with the concept of God or have been hurt by religious experiences. I am especially familiar with Christianity, Buddhism, 12-Step Recovery and the spirituality of yoga.

I am trained in a variety of psychological approaches to working with my specialties. I have had a regular mindfulness practice for five years and often teach mindfulness and meditation.

I am excited to be participating in Subtle Yoga teacher training for behavioral health professionals. I have been amazed at how well clients are responding to learning mindful movements and breathing practices. These body-based practices are effective in calming the nervous system and retraining the brain to detach from obsessive thinking patterns.

I am committed to excellence in therapy. I regularly participate in new training and get individual and peer supervision.

I have been married for 17 years. In my free time, I enjoy reading, hiking, gardening, yoga, photography and travel.

Credentials

  • Master of Social Work, Virginia Commonwealth University, 2002
  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker (NC #C004914) since 2005
  • 2016 graduate of the Living School for Action and Contemplation
  • Participating in Subtle Yoga Teacher Training (RYT-200) for behavioral health professionals

Invitation

I invite you to work with me to heal and develop a life worth living.  Please contact me to explore working with me.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What can I expect from the first appointment?

I’ll meet with you for 75 minutes the first time. In the first meeting, I hear the story of what’s bringing you to therapy, ask questions to get a picture of your life history, and help you clarify your goals. You also get a sense of what it’s like to talk with me and ask questions you may have about me or the therapy process. By the end of the session, we mutually decide if it seems like I’m a good fit as a therapist for you. If either of us decides we’re not a good fit, I am happy to offer referrals to other therapists.

How long will it take to feel better?

We decide together after few sessions whether therapy will be short term or longer term. It takes time to get to know you and build trust. The length of therapy depends on the nature of the problem, how long it’s been going on, and your willingness to try new behaviors outside of sessions. I recommend committing to weekly therapy for three to six months. We can then reevaluate your progress in meeting your goals.

How does therapy work?

Therapy is process of healing, going at your pace and taking one day at a time. Each person’s therapy will look somewhat different because each person is different.

I am flexible. I use my extensive knowledge, experience and practical skills to help you meet your goals. In working with you, I help you see your strengths and become less self-critical. I teach skills in:

• new ways of thinking
• emotional awareness and regulation
• physical self-care
• practices to nurture spirituality

I start with you in each session. You decide what’s important to talk about. Most people talk about recent experiences, problems, and the progress they’re making. At times, I encourage you to make connections between the past and the present. This deepens understanding of the roots of your thoughts, feelings and actions.

I am not a blank slate as a therapist. I am interactive. I balance empathic listening, objective feedback and teaching new skills.

Is going to therapy a sign of weakness?

Absolutely not. Quite the opposite. It’s a sign of strength and wisdom to acknowledge our human limitations and seek help when we need it. It's then that we can receive what we need from others and develop right relationship with God. This is the meaning of the often-quoted phrase from Paul, “For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Unfortunately, American culture often takes individualism and self-reliance to an unhealthy extreme. Your parents' messages about asking for help likely affect your attitude today. When you keep doing the same thing again and again expecting a different outcome, it's time to do something different. I like to say, “When you keep hitting your head against a wall, turn left.”

What are your fees?

The initial session takes 75 minutes and costs $140 for individuals and $170 for couples. After that, I charge $115 for 50-minute therapy sessions. I accept payments by cash, check, credit card and Health Savings Account cards.

Please talk with me if you have concerns about finances. I will work with you to find a fee you can afford.

Do you take insurance?

I am an out-of-network provider for all insurance companies. That means our work together is covered. I will give you receipts to submit for reimbursement from your insurance company.  Please check with your insurance provider to find out about out-of-network mental health benefits.

Why should I see you instead of a therapist in my insurance network?

Not all therapists are the same. It's essential to have a good fit with a therapist whom you trust and who listens to you and gets you. This is one of the most important factors determining your success. Is living a life of meaning and love essential to who you are? How important is faith or spirituality to you? I specialize in working with people who want to talk about spirituality as part of therapy.

Are you LGBT friendly?

Definitely. I am an ally of the LGBT community and welcome you into my practice.

Do you offer evening hours?

Yes. I currently offer evening hours on Mondays and Thursdays.

Where are you located?

My office is located in Midtown Raleigh at 3710 Benson Drive, off Wake Forest Rd. just north of I-440.