Posts by Sheila

How to Live Through Pain and Grief

Ice caps breaking

I just finished the classic “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” and highly recommend it. God does not will or cause our suffering, Rabbi Harold Kushner says. God has created a world that is mostly good and orderly, but He does not control people’s behavior or micromanage forces of nature. Therefore pain, suffering, and…

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On Perfectionism, Risk & the True Self

Forest

Sometimes we make life much more complicated that it needs to be. As a recovering perfectionist, I tend to think if I can’t do something amazingly well, or if I can’t see how something I want to do will turn out, then I shouldn’t do it at all. Not surprisingly, that leads to self-doubt, feeling…

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Yes, Change is Hard: A Spiritual Leader’s Advice

Birds over water

“Spirituality is always about you changing your own way of seeing and your own way of hearing (not changing other people!). It’s about opening your heart space every day and keeping it open with some form of prayer every few minutes if need be, so that the hurts and disappointments of life won’t close you down. You…

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